Welcome! My name is Laura Janquart and I’m absolutely thrilled to be partnering with my best friend on The Linda Project. Hopefully you have taken time to read Linda and Jenna’s story and realize why it was a no brainer for me to join forces. Jenna and I have been best friends since junior high and I knew we would remain lifelong friends after making it as college roommates. We’ve been there for each other through all the up’s and down’s in life. Fortunately, our down’s then were nothing compared to where the road was about to take us.
HERE’S MY STORY…
My story dates back to January of 2014, the month we began trying for our second child. I assumed it would take 6-9 months, after all, that is the average time it takes most couples and that was about the same time-frame it took us to get pregnant with our daughter. Until 12 months passed, and we still weren’t pregnant. What now? Who do I talk to? Where do I go for guidance? Why me? A million questions running through my head. I dreamed of the day we would get to tell Payton she was going to be a big sister. The road was long and windy, never straightforward.
Spring of 2015 came and I knew it was time to get “help”. I was becoming very frustrated after 16 months of naturally trying. And believe me, there is little to no intimacy after trying that long. We started with the basics, the drug Clomid. After 3 months of no success, I gave up on that drug. I just knew in my head I needed to move on to the next step. That’s when I was introduced to RMIA, which is an infertility clinic in the Twin Cities. After hours on end of paperwork and various medical procedures that were needed to move forward, I was diagnosed with unexplained secondary infertility.
In fall of 2015 we went through our first IUI. This is a pretty simple procedure and way less invasive then IVF. Unfortunately, this too was unsuccessful. It’s normal for most couples to do 2-3 round of IUI’s but unfortunately my insurance didn’t cover a dime of infertility treatment. I couldn’t fathom spending another $2,500 on an IUI when we could be applying that towards the big monster, IVF. So we once again moved forward. We were headed for IVF. I was very excited, scared, and nervous, but I knew this was going to give us the best chance at completing our family. So in February 2016, we started our first IVF cycle. Everything went great and we were able to retrieve 16 eggs. After the transfer, things quickly went downhill. We met with the embryologist and learned that we had no embryos left to freeze. This was heartbreaking. I knew if this didn’t work I was going to have to go through an entire fresh cycle again. But I quickly reminded myself to refocus on the two embryos that were transferred in me. Maybe I didn’t need frozen ones because what was transferred was all I was going to ever need. Until I got the call on March 9th. The test was negative and it was unsuccessful. What now?
We decided to book a trip and get away. It was much needed after everything we had been through. We decided we were going to start our next fresh cycle in May. Until April came and went and I never got my period. To much of our surprise, I took a test and we were pregnant. Pregnant naturally after all of this. What a miracle, God truly does have a plan! But then on May 23rd, something happened. Something devastating that I will never be able to erase from my memory. I was miscarrying. How was this possible? Why did this have to be happening to me? Haven’t I gone through enough?
So there we were, with more questions. Do we give it time or start another round of IVF? I decided I needed the summer to give my body a break from all the drugs and treatment. Going through a miscarriage is both physically and mentally draining. We tried naturally over the summer and by fall we were not pregnant. September came and I contacted RMIA to begin another round of IVF. I was ready. I wanted to get this over with. I wanted our baby. I wanted my family to be complete. I was so angry, frustrated, yet hopeful.
The second round was less stressful due to understanding how to inject all the shots by this point. There were a lot less tears. Until retrieval day…The doctor came out and told me he got 5 eggs…then quickly reminded me it only takes one. We tried a different approach this time around, going for quality over quantity. But still, 5 eggs. I was devastated immediately. I got the call that two looked decent to insert, so went back on day 3 for transfer day. Different from our first time around, I had a feeling I was pregnant after the first two weeks. For starters, I didn’t get my period and I had absolutely no cramping or breakouts. (All symptoms I tend to experience during my time of the month). Sure enough, I got the call from the doctor 12 days after transfer day that we were pregnant!
It came time for our six week ultrasound when we learned there were two! We were beyond shocked and a little scared. The doctor warned us baby B’s heartbeat was pretty low and it wasn’t growing the same as Baby A. She told us to come back at 8 weeks. So we did and baby B was still hanging in there. At ten weeks I started bleeding. Having gone through a miscarriage before, I called my OBGYN and made her fit me in immediately. It was at that ultrasound where we learned baby B’s heart had stopped beating. He/she ended up dissolving (sounds terrible) and baby A went on to grow wonderfully. It was a very stressful pregnancy, always wondering if Baby A was going to be ok from vanishing twin syndrome, but our beautiful miracle came to join our family on June 8th, 2017.
In these past 3 years I’ve learned more about myself than I could ever imagine. God is not punishing any of us that are facing this disease. He has a purpose and our blessings are in the works. I’m here to not only share with you my story, and the many ups and downs of infertility, but it is my true desire to educate and offer HOPE for anyone feeling defeated. If you are reading this, I promise someone you know is dealing with this in silence. This is not an easy journey to be on. Keeping it a secret, not knowing where to turn, or how you are going to have the funds for treatment or adoption. Unfortunately I have gone through all the heartbreak and continue to experience the many emotions that come along with it, and am here to let you know you are not alone. I’ve started this blog and have provided infertility resources which you can find on our site.
Because there is more to me than what you’ve read above….In addition to our Tanner, I am a wife and blessed mommy to our 5 yr old daughter Payton, and puggle, Lacey. I love sports and recently celebrated my 11-year work anniversary with the Timberwolves and Lynx. Traveling is our passion. I am a sucker for sunsets. I love reading while enjoying a cup of java. Put anything fall related in front of me and I’m in.
Thank you for taking the time to stop by! I encourage you to follow us as we take you (and hopefully inspire you) through this crazy adventure.