I’m not sure about all of you, but when I began to dream about being a mom, I had a certain “picture” in my head. Motherhood would come naturally to me. My baby would sleep well, we would go for long walks, or long drives in the car, we would have tons of play dates with friends and cousins, Matt and I would have date night often, I would do somethings differently from my parents, and some things exactly the same. It all just seemed so “perfect.”
So, how much of motherhood turned out just like that? Not too much. Owen didn’t like going for walks, absolutely HATED the car the first year, we weren’t able to have many play dates (especially the first year, he was sick all the time), and date nights were far and few between. But, the one thing that devastated me, was motherhood wasn’t the most natural thing for me. It took me a little time to find “my groove,” and until I did I beat myself up about it relentlessly.
I don’t know why, but I never thought about reading a book about motherhood. I never saw my mom read a book about motherhood, or any other women in my life, so why did I need one? It took a little over a year until my mom brought me a “present.” It was a book that would sit in my night stand for almost a year before I would finally pick it up and give it a read. A book about motherhood, a book really about womanhood, a book called, “Hoodwinked, Ten Myths Moms Believe & Why They Should Knock it Off,” by Karen Ehman and Ruth Schwenk. All I can say is that I wish I would have read it sooner.
The book is broken into chapters that discuss ten popular myths that mother’s believe:
- Mothering is Natural, Easy, and Instinctive
- The Way I Mother Is the Right (and Only) Way
- I Am “Just” a Mom
- Motherhood Is All-Consuming and All-Fulfilling
- A Good Mother Can Do It All, All at Once
- Motherhood is a Rat Race
- Motherhood is the Luck of the Draw
- Everything Depends on Me
- I Have to Do It All Right, or My Child Will Turn Out Wrong
- My Child’s Bad Choice Means I’m a Bad Mom
What I loved:
- I really enjoyed that this book had two authors. It gave different perspectives and a variety of real-life stories as each woman has different size families and backgrounds.
- Each of the myths are proven false by not only the author’s personal experiences, but through God’s word. Scripture is weaved throughout this book and helps ground the messaging for mothers, so we can remember to whom we really belong.
- It made me feel like I truly wasn’t alone.
- I wasn’t able to relate to every chapter entirely, but I was still able to find inspiration or encouragement from each chapter.
- The bonus materials that includes: prayers, helpful bible verses, and minute-long mom pep talks (which I think we can all admit we need from time to time).
What I didn’t love:
- I wish there were more “real-life” stories about full-time working moms. Neither Karen or Ruth worked full-time outside of the home while they were raising their children, so I understand, but it did make it a bit hard to relate to all of the stay at home mom stories.
Overall, I think this book is incredibly helpful for a new mom, or any mom who may be struggling. I felt that the myths did a good job of covering multiple stages of motherhood, which makes it accessible to woman at any age. I would highly recommend picking up this book. I think it would also be a really fun book to discuss at a Woman’s Bible Study, or a Christian book club.
If you have read this book, or pick it up and read it, please leave me a comment and let me know what you think!
Blessings to you and your loved ones,
Three items I’m grateful for:
- Time for myself reading good books for the soul
- Aveda tea — if you haven’t tried it I highly recommend it.
- Parents who come over and bring dinner when you’re just too tired to cook 🙂