I’m very lucky and blessed to have some of the best coworkers and Abbie is at the top of my list! She’s a superstar at work and at being a mom! I feel so grateful that not only do I get to call her a colleague, but also a friend. Abbie has one of the biggest hearts of anyone I know. She’s incredibly caring and is always available to help in anyway she can (like writing this post for example) to giving a hug when I need one. Abbie, I’m so grateful to know you. You came into my life at an interesting time, but I believe everything happens for a reason and I am truly a better person for knowing you!
I hope you all enjoy this post as much as I did, as Abbie gives us a honest look into those first couple of months of motherhood. Enjoy everyone!
Hi! I am Abbie, a brand-new, first time mom! My husband and I welcomed our daughter late in October and our lives were forever changed. I am someone who always wanted to have kids and am maternal by nature, but I never imagined how much my heart would grow when I became a mom. I now know that my own mom was right when she explained I’d never feel a love like the love I feel for our daughter.
Thanks to Jenna and Laura for the opportunity to be a guest on The Linda Project. It has been heartwarming to watch this website grow into something that can positively impact many people. I’m excited to share some of what I’ve learned in a little over two months. I’m going to share favorite products, surprises, challenges, and advice. I hope this helps other moms expecting for the first time or beyond and I’d love to hear your thoughts on these topics as well. Please feel free to share in the comments below!
Keekaroo Peanut Changer. A friend of mine recommended this as her No. one baby item. I couldn’t agree more! Our daughter has gone to the bathroom on it so many times and rather than washing a fabric cover, we just wipe the changing table with a baby-friendly cleaning spray.
Motherlove Nipple Cream. I am a huge fan of all Motherlove products, but early on, this product made breastfeeding much less painful.
Fisher Price Kick and Play Piano Gym. As much as I don’t love baby toys that take up a ton of room and make sound (ha!), this is a favorite in our house! Our daughter LOVES to kick on it, reach for the toys, and see herself in the mirror.
Rock and Play. Although our daughter sleeps in a bassinet in our room at night, we love having the rock and play in our living room for short naps or independent time during the day. It’s been a lifesaver!
Yada Car Monitor. It’s so nice to be able to look right up on my dash to see how my baby is doing in the back. This was a hand-me-down but I think it’s most definitely a worthwhile purchase!
Biggest Surprises of Motherhood
Sleep. People like to say to new parents, ‘you must be exhausted!’ I’m surprised, yet thrilled to say that we are quite rested and have been for several weeks. Our daughter has been giving us six to seven hour stretches since she was five weeks old. Please know that as I’m typing this, I am knocking on wood hoping this doesn’t change.
Breastfeeding. If someone would have told me in the hospital that I’d be having a successful breastfeeding experience now, I would have never believed them. The beginning was HARD and painful. I’m grateful to have stuck with it and truly believe in the work of lactation consultants – they are so kind and patient.
How Quickly Time Passes. I have never, ever, had two months of my life pass so quick. It feels like we brought our precious girl home just yesterday. Earlier today I visited friends who have a ten day old and it made me realize how much our own baby has grown in such a short time.
A big challenge for me as a mom has been balance. Balance is never easy because busyness happens in all phases of life. However, babies consume a lot of time. My days on maternity leave absolutely fly by. I write out what I feel is a reasonable to do list for the day and more often than not, I can’t finish it. Between nursing, snuggling, and changing diapers, it’s hard to pay the bills, empty the dishwasher, or make the bed. The housework can wait, but there are other things that need to be prioritized in order to be a good mom, like self-care and time with your partner. Balance is a work in progress for me and will become even more challenging as I head back to work this month.
Speaking of heading back to work, I haven’t done it yet but as it approaches, I can imagine it’s going to be one of the hardest parts of motherhood for me. I have a great job and a supportive work environment but leaving our smiley, energetic, snuggly baby is going to break my heart. I do believe that daycare is good for children, but will selfishly miss her so much. As soon as I’m back, you can find me snuggling my sweet little girl each evening and every weekend.
- Make sure to get pictures with your baby! I often find that because I’m so obsessed with our little girl, I’m behind the lens (let’s be honest, camera phone!). Make sure to have your partner take pictures with you in them!
- Take a step back and let your partner learn. Being the main caretaker while on maternity leave, there are things I naturally know more about with our daughter. It can be hard to bite my tongue and let my husband learn, but it’s important for his confidence as a dad and for his relationship with our daughter.
- Fussy baby and need to get things done? Sing songs and dance to entertain them. I’ve got a mad rendition of ‘Mommy’s Making the Bed!’
- SAVOR EVERY MOMENT! The housework can wait and your friends will understand, but babies don’t keep. In the blink of an eye, you’ll have a two-month old and I can only imagine that time isn’t slowing down and she’ll be in college in what feels like no time.