Something that I have always believed is that you can get through almost anything in life as long as you have at least one good friend. I think back to my days of elementary and middle school. Walking into the cafeteria on the first day always made me so anxious, until I spotted that one good friend.
Fast forward to high school and the same feelings rang true. If I could spot one of my close friends in a new class, or an activity, I was immediately at ease. During that time of our lives, we’re lucky. We have a built-in social network that we grow up with, either in our neighborhoods, churches, or even our families (I had three of my first cousins in my high school).
But, then we move on and step into that next phase of life. College for some or the “real world.” My path took me to a small university in Wisconsin with my dear friend, Laura. I know that’s not everyone’s path, but it sure made my transition into young adulthood so much easier with her by my side. In college, I found that I was able to meet friends even easier than high school, because there wasn’t any “baggage” from years passed. I also felt that we all had so much in common already, the college we were at, classes, other friends, independence, and maybe a few bottles of Boons Farm 🙂
Life’s major moments are the perfect platform to continue those connections from your past. There’s always celebration when you get married or have your first baby. But, what happens after that? What happens when the people in your life depart from “your path” and move into a journey of their own?
I find that the older we get and as our lives fill with responsibilities, different paths, or maybe even distance it’s sometimes makes it hard to continue those relationships we once had. Sometimes what can even be harder during this season of life is creating new frienships.
So, why do I bring this up? Well, life happens. I was just speaking with my sweet sister-in-law, Michelle, who recently made a large move with her family to a new state with no friends or family there. We talked about how it’s difficult meeting people, but even more difficult to meet “your people” sometimes. It can start to feel like all you talk about is the weather or that day’s traffic. So, when do we get to the “real talk?” When do friendships or relationships move from the surface to meaningful relationships?
I think there’s lots of answers, but the best way I know how to create deep relationships is by showing vulnerability. Letting people into your “real life.” The places that aren’t your highlight reel on social media. The places that you’re even scared to admit. By showing vulnerability, you’re showing the other person that you trust them, which leads to a deeper bond. Plus, you never know, that person could be going through something similar to you and you may even connect in a new way.
I want to encourage everyone who may be in a life transition, or may find themselves in a season of life where they don’t have “their person,” to step out. Take that conversation from small talk to real talk. You just never know who may become your next closest friend.
Blessings to you and your family,
Three things I’m grateful for:
- The smell of Spring – it’s a reminder that all things can become new again.
- The smell of the lake.
- Sunshine after a long, dark, cold winter.