The other day I was reviewing my health chart and for some reason I thought it would be a good idea to click on my “diagnoses” and right there in black and white were three new labels that I began to take to heart. Ones that I have heard before, but ones that I have never really wanted to “accept.” But, for some reason seeing them on that screen made me feel like they were real and that they defined me in some way.
Then I began thinking about all of the labels that each of us carry everyday. Just off the top of my head I’m a mom, a wife, a daughter, a sister, a friend, a Goddaughter, a Godmother, a manager, a woman, a Minnesotan, a cousin, and the list keeps going on and on. It’s no wonder that at the end of the day we can sometimes feel worn out and tired trying to fulfill all of these roles/labels, and these are just ones that are easy to name. There’s so many other labels that I’m sure we all walk around with that we never really want to talk about because we’re either afraid or ashamed.
So, I wonder while we walk this Earth with so many labels and roles attached to us how is it even possible to keep the balance in the midst of all of it? How can I show my husband the same amount of attention as I show my son? How can I make sure that I connect equally with friends near and far? How can I make sure that I fulfill all my “duties” at my day job in addition to all of my other duties. Well, to tell you the truth, I can’t. There’s just no way that I can expect perfection from myself. There are only so many hours in a day and I’ve learned that when I try to do it all, I usually end up failing miserably at most things.
I’m finding myself reflecting right now as I feel that I have lost my balance between my day job, my mom job, my job as a wife, and as a friend. I always feel like I should be giving more of myself somehow or someway. But, the truth of the matter is, if we don’t take care of ourselves and really self reflect on what’s important we’re not going to be able to serve anyone well — especially ourselves.
So, what does all of this mean? Well, I’m a person who really likes things “black and white.” I hate the gray area. I just want to know where I stand with people, in life, everything. Maybe it’s something to do with the fear of the unknown, or maybe it’s just easier to have vision, but either way most things in life are just that – gray. Well, that is except one thing. After I reflected on all of the labels we put on ourselves as well as ones that others put on us, I began to think about what labels God puts on us, which are the most important, right? They are the eternal labels. Ones that will last forever.
The word says:
But to all who have received him–those who believe in his name–he has given the right to become God’s children … (John 1:12).
This brought me peace. Another label in black and white. The most important label. I am a child of God and once I began to focus on that label, I realized that it’s easier to start prioritizing and adjusting all of the other labels to live out our lives how our Father would like us to. If anyone out there today is feeling a bit lost, maybe drowning in responsibilities, or maybe feeling lost in their own identity, just remember that there is one concrete label and identity that you can always hold onto – You are a child of God and your Father will take care of you.
Three items I’m grateful for:
- My husband, no matter what, he is ALWAYS here for me.
- The grace of a new perspective.
- The spirit of the holiday season.